Thank God it’s Monday,
Are you a control freak? What happens when things don’t go as planned? Do you lose control of your emotions? Do you leave a wake of emotional destruction as everyone feels the wrath of your anger and frustration? These are signs of someone who is out of control. How do I know about this? … Cause that used to be me!
The ironic thing is, to get control we must learn to give up the need to be in control. This has been one of the most important and liberating lessons of my life. The fact is we have very little control over most things. Accepting this lesson as fact is the first step in regaining self-control.
The only thing we have control over is how we react to life’s experiences. This is one of life’s greatest paradoxes. Think about it, when we blindly react we give up our personal power, therefore, our ability to effectively deal with each challenge. When we learn to choose our emotional response we are choosing the experience WE want to have. This is where control is regained.
I understand this sounds easier than it really is. Learning how to choose your response and emotions is a skill like learning to drive or play the piano. It takes practice and patience.
Begin by embracing life’s unpredictability. Things often don’t go as planned, but that can be a good thing. Train your mind to think that new experiences are cool. The juice of life is in the unexpected. If everything were predictable and controllable, life would become incredibly boring.
Change Your Mind, Change Your Destiny!
Next, identify your emotional triggers that cause you to lose your cool. What sets you off? Then ask yourself, “how would I prefer to respond?” When you begin to feel your buttons being pushed, stop, take two long deep breaths, then ask yourself, “what is the outcome I want and how do I choose to react?” Consciously choose your experience.
Learning to master this skill will take time and effort, but I can promise you the benefits are immeasurable. Not the least of which is better physical and mental well-being.
Live Inspired, Be abundant and Fulfill your Destiny,
